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An 8 week self-paced program to explore and expand your relationship with mortality.

$250* interest-free payment plans available on request.

Everyone you know will die. Including you. 

Deaths, big and small, happen everyday. It is always happening. Our bodies are dynamic and are constantly in some part of the cycle of growth and decay. What can you learn about the meaning of your life by making friends with death? 

Honoring the little deaths.

How might honoring the “little deaths” help you to embrace change and emergence? What might a practice of engaging with your mortality change about your day to day life and relationships? 

That is where the gold is, my friend. When we are faced with our mortality, what we need from our life comes into sharp focus. Being in right relationship with your mortality makes your existence more vivid and tender.

What do you want “more time” to be like?

I have been with many people at the end. Most of them at some point were asked by their doctors if they wanted more time. Almost none of them were asked what they needed from their extra time. In absence of this question, more time can often look like more time spent in existential dread. More time desperate for a miracle. What do you want more time to be like?

Life is precious because it ends.

Modern society is built on an ethos of endless growth and development. It is woven into everything we do. That is inherently at odds with death. Death is an essential experience, a rite of passage which we all must cross. Within the web of life, decay creates the fertile ground from which new life emerges.  

“When all we are shown is the imagery of ascent, we are left to interpret the times of descent as pathological” - Francis Weller

Historically, every culture has kept rich traditions to honor what’s been loved and lost. This is an integral part of how we integrate our lived histories and meet change with intention. Modern culture has lost many of those skills and rituals. Death, loss, and grief are not welcome in this culture. They pull at the thread of the lie of endless growth, threatening to unravel the whole fabric. Let’s tug at the thread together.

  • Befriending Death is an 8 week self-paced program to explore and expand your relationship with mortality. It’s a financially accessible, flexible program that can be easily integrated into your busy schedules in a private setting. This program is designed to be a slow, steady, and (dare I say) pleasurable experience of getting to know your mortality. The intention is that through small, easeful, daily moves, you build a sense of safety and curiosity as you explore what death teaches you about life.

    ✦ capacity for curiosity

    ✦ capacity for examining your life

    ✦ capacity for small, doable change

    ✦ capacity for honoring the sacred mystery

  • Over eight weeks, I will email you weekly meditations, somatic practices, reflections, journaling prompts, and exercises to help break the ice and jumpstart the conversation as you get to know a new friend. You will ease into these practices at your own pace, finding which practices support you in small daily doses of attuning to death and change on purpose, followed by attuning to life and growth on purpose. 

    Bonus: I am offering bi-monthly sessions of Death Jam: a free, virtual, facilitated community conversation about death and grief, exclusively for Befriending Death participants. We will explore your questions and reflections from your journey in community with others who are also exploring their relationship with death. This will be like a death cafe just for folks participating in Befriending Death dates TBD 6-8pm CST

  • Like Mary Oliver, when death comes you want to be a bride to amazement…and you want to be available for yourself and your people.

    You want to show up each day to your life with an open heart and an open mind.

    You are curious about what an intentional relationship with death can mean for your life.

    You are drawn to the death positive movement, and wonder what an empowered relationship with death could mean for your loved ones and community.

    You are overwhelmed by the thought of end of life care planning for yourself or with a loved one and are looking for support and a gentle point of entry. 

    You want to come to terms with your own death anxiety as you navigate climate collapse and a continuous global pandemic.

    You want to orient towards life on purpose without bypassing grief during a time of tremendous change and loss.

    You are curious about death as the next great mystery and want to intentionally develop a sacred relationship with life and death.

Cost - $250

FINE PRINT
I believe deeply in the power of this work and I want you to have the right fit of support for you as you journey with mortality. On death and collective trauma: It’s normal to have fear about death, to have feelings of anxiety related to powerlessness that lives in your body and exceeds one’s rational mind. Though, not everyone in our society experiences death and sickness at the same rate and ferocity. Within a white supremacist, capitalist, ableist patriarchy, not everyone has equal access to care and resources that support a long, healthy life. While I have some earned and developing facility with creating trauma informed content and awareness of my own positionality as it relates to power, this program is not going to be a right fit for everyone. If you sense that you have trauma around death and chronic illness, you may need additional or different support around that. I would be happy to point you towards reputable resources that I am aware of and invite you to call in all the meaningful layers of support available to you. If you choose to participate in this program and experience harm along the way, I welcome your feedback in ways that feel safe and meaningful to you. I want you to know that your feedback particularly regarding harm is something I take seriously and receive as an invitation into deeper belonging and integrity.